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Friday, February 12

Breakup Grief - Is Heartbreak Harder on Men or Women?


What would you say if I told you that breakups are harder on men than on women?
Surprised?

Maybe not. Especially if you're going through one right now.

Women have this misnomer that men have an easier time initiating a breakup, when in actuality it's just as difficult - if not more so - for men to pull the plug.

Men are hit harder by heartbreak than women are.

This means that when men are hurt by someone they care about, they have a more difficult time coping than women do.

Why?

When men are going through tough times, they often go to their confidant for support. This means that a guy will turn to his girlfriend or spouse in times of need.

So if the problems are about the relationship, he can't exactly go to who he always goes to!

He might feel he has nowhere else to turn, or that he can't open up to anyone about what he's going through.

This is because at a young age guys are conditioned to bottle up their emotions. By ignoring emotions, this can make things worse. The feelings don't go away, so in turn, you feel hopeless.

While women are encouraged to talk to their friends when things are going downhill in their lives, or are told to write in a journal or watch a sappy movie, men are told to just let things go.

But that's easier said than done, as you may already know.

Men often don't have someone that can give them a reality check with their emotions.

This is why having close friends are so important. It can get us through the rough patches and keep our emotions in line.

When we are dealing with a breakup and any consequent heartbreak, friends are a healthy way to help dust us off, and give us some pep to get back out there again.

Whether you are a guy or a girl going through breakup grief, it's important to take control of your emotions.

Don't lie on the couch waiting for time to lick up your wounds. This won't happen.

Instead, you have to actively deal with your emotions and make yourself feel better. Do things that make you happy. Work on being the best self you can be.

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