What's the Secret to Getting Her Back?

People use many different expressions for their desire to get a relationship with their ex back.

You can say you want to get her back, bring her back, or even persuade her back.

Of all the ways you can phrase it, thinking how to win her back is the most appropriate.

Here's why..

Getting back together with your love is not about you "getting" her back, or even about "repairing" the relationship. It is about "winning" her back.

Winning her back implies a few important things.

It implies effort on your part.

More specifically, it implies putting effort toward improving yourself so that your ex will want to come back to you and this is, in essence, what it's all about.

You see, in order to convince your woman that you deserve another chance, she has to believe the relationship will be different than before the breakup.

The best way to encourage this belief within her is for her to see (and believe) that YOU are a changed, and better improved, man. ('Cause you are, right? Or you're working towards it.)

There simply isn't another equally effective way to win her love back then for her to believe that you have changed for the better, for yourself, and for the relationship.

There is something very important that you need to do to win her love back, and it's not these things:

• Stalk her (yes, it's obvious, but you'd be surprised...) 
• Argue with her for her to see her faults
• Fish for sympathy by acting depressed 
• Buy her a gift or write a poem 
• Manipulate her with some kind of leverage (sex, money, jealousy, etc.) 
• Tell her over and over how much you love her 

If you can avoid using any of these tactics to try and get her back, you'll already be way ahead of most people.

So what you have to do is...

She will need to perceive you as changed in positive ways.

But, there is another essential ingredient... you need to raise the level of attraction between you and your ex to a boiling point.

The perception of change makes her willing to give it another shot.

BUT, It's the attraction that convinces her to get back together.